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Session 164: Do Relationships Have to Be Hard Work?

The Therapy for Black Girls Podcast is a weekly conversation with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, a Licensed Psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia, about all things mental health, personal development, and all the small decisions we can make to become the best possible version of ourselves.

I often hear comments about how laborious being in relationships is and wanted to dig into where this message might be coming from and why it seems to be so persistent. So of course I had to bring in one of my incredible colleagues to chat about it. Today we’re joined by Dr. Lexx Brown-James. Dr. Lexx and I chatted about where these messages about partnership come from, what she considers the real work of partnership to be, 4 warning signs you want to be on the lookout for in your relationship, and she shares what vulnerability looks like in a partnership.

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